The friend calls for, her son likes to be done on the class laugh, the teacher says the show that is self-confident heart inadequacy, want the parent to notice more. She listened to feel distressed, do his best the good qualities that goes raising the child, beautiful big money lets the child learn all sorts of talent, filling English, receive everyday receive send, do exhaustedly, but the son still is done on the class laugh, let a teacher very the head is big, want her to notice on contact book again. I listened to sympathize with very much, adolescence is the most painful phase in child growing process, among them the most painful is " ego " errant. A lot of doing the child that laugh is to do not have good qualities self-consciously, be forced to come with amuse oneself seductive, his heart is painful actually. Columnist Bao Kehua of the United States writes him in his memoir is an orphan, grown in orphanage, dressed in rage, without pocket money, go out when studying, be forced to rely on to make fun of treasure to do laugh to make others likes him, he did not think of to be on the road of humorous column later. Luck of another very famous humorous writer shellfish (DavidBarry) also is to be when the middle school, result is bad, motion also is no good, want to play basketball not quite tall, want to play football not quite strong, remain make fun of treasure only, funny female classmate laughed. The heart that he says him actually very empty, oneself often are hated after coming home why article, Wu Buwu, want to rely on from ridicule to avoid others to mock. When he becomes the TV on popular writer to be visited to later all the time, just say: "I need not rely on to do eventually laugh make fun of treasure to caused others to notice " . Listened to acid of your popular feeling. We do not want by presentative place becloud, want the anguish that the inner world that method enters the child goes dissolving him.

I persuade a friend not to invite child take lessons after school, to him a bit time makes friend. At present the arrangement of Chinese syllabus speaks intimate to the child without time. Want her to look after children on the weekend go out play, find out his good qualities incidentally. Self-confidence must rely on actual strength, this actual strength is not a mark, it is his intellectual range and deepness. Want by person have a good opinion of, must want to have by the thing of have a good opinion of. Do laughing is a bagatelle it seems that, but the loud cry that it is child heart loneliness, cannot despise.