Should be asked about to be opposite when the child's expectation, the parents of general the world responds none can hesitantly: "My hope child can intelligence quotient business of tall, affection tall, the gift of tongues is strong, gregarious ability ability of strong, motion is strong, artistic capability is strong... " . But if be asked about: "Do you hope your child proper pride is strong? " of parenthood often can say: "I feel child proper pride is too strong is not meddlesome affection! "I feel child proper pride is too strong is not meddlesome affection!!

The child with strong proper pride has an advantage more

Some parents often can complain, "My child is very obdurate, often like to be being twisted with us come, take him a bit method also is done not have " . In general, the child with strong proper pride is so not recipient adult is directive, accordingly a lot of parents do not like the child with strong proper pride, more favore those obedient, compliant children.

Really, after the criticism that encounters the parent, the child with strong proper pride can show longer dissatisfaction, also meet more the view that holds to oneself and practice, appear stubborn and not easy and domestic. From apparently look, such child goes against the parent " certainly " . But in fact, the child with strong proper pride is willing to accept a challenge more after failure, they also are not willing easily implicit authority. Such child has very strong socialization commonly ability and be able to bear or endure defeat force.

Error of 6 large action

1. In communal circumstance or be the child rebukes aloud before other

If other people is right you so do, you can be behaved very angrily, that why is the child sustainable the parent Where is such pay?

2. For drive he, compare he and other child

The child is in 7 ～ is 8 years old before it is to understand the parent not " irony " , in cannot comprehending speech more multilayer meaning, accordingly he can experience the malcontent attitude that says these words to the parent only, can not understand real intent of the parent.

3. Because the job is too busy often oversight child

To parental affection ancestors place cannot replace the child, the child hopes to get parental attention, with parents a game, study is mixed amuse oneself. As small " the person that idealism is talked " children, because he is not quite good,he often thinks you do not pay close attention to him is, not quite good reason.

4. Because be afraid that the child is proud, criticism over praise

The parent always grudges praise the child, parents must want to do praise the child actually. These praising will become the child next time the motivation of behavior, also can let him prefer him.

5. Because be afraid that the child's capacity is insufficient, and the independent action that refuses him

The child thinks he goes doing a business, parents is afraid that the trouble does not let the child let go go trying, little imagine does the proper pride that hurt the child actually so. Although parents is coaching help child compares a trouble aside, but the ability that can let the child see his so. Establish in the heart as a child " I am OK " confidence, such confidence can help the child overcome all sorts of difficulty in his lifetime.
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